On 18 October 2014, I organised World Menopause Day with the support of the Gold Coast City Council. It was the first time an event like this had been run on the Gold Coast honouring the rite of passage of menopause. I brought together women for a day to share stories and experiences of this profound life transition.
On the day, this guided meditation was presented by Ishtar, a spiritual heart awakener whom I had been working with for a few years. Now six years on I immerse myself in her words, resonate with them more profoundly and want to share them with you here.
“As women, we go through very significant physiological milestones in our lives. We move from maiden to mother, mother to crone, either with ease and grace or pain and suffering. Unfortunately the pathway of pain and suffering is the one most practiced in our culture and society today.
Without any formal rite of passage, most young women are initiated into the dominant culture of competition, achievement and striving. They are under enormous pressure to forego their feminine aspects and compete with their male counterparts. This process of defeminisation creates young women who have well developed masculine aspects with male goals and aspirations and often don’t feel safe to express themselves in a healthy feminine way. Too often they get caught in public ideals and illusions of beauty and the masculine hierarchical concepts of efficiency and productivity. They strive for survival goals rather than connecting to the perfection of their feminine expression.
As these women become mothers they feel compelled to play both the mothering and provisioning roles. They juggle motherhood with careers at huge personal cost, so by the time they reach menopause they are exhausted and have very little commitment and connection to self. Their addiction to stress and self denial have set them up to experience pain and suffering in menopause as they try to come to grips with the physiological changes from a place of depletion on all levels physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
The beauty is that at any time, as women, we can turn this picture around, by changing our commitment from putting everyone else first to self prioritising, truly committing to increasingly love, cherish, connect to and care for ourselves in our deepening feminine nature. This involves a journey of self exploration and true self-reflection (Taramael), a journey that will take us deep into the heart of our soul, to perceive with compassionate honesty where we have denied ourselves, our needs, and our processes. It is our opportunity as women to use the wisdom gained from our suffering to break the mold and create a new identity of a feminine, empowered, self loving woman.
To do this requires a willingness to to let go (Kel-el-m). To let go (Kel-el-m) of what we perceive to be true, that is our need to be indispensable, self sacrificing, martyred providers. To let go of putting our loyalty, commitment, duty and responsibility to others before ourselves. To change requires a willingness to be a self honest, compassionate and a self responsible witness to our choices, expressions and behaviours. To make ourselves the priority in our own lives. To replace our life consuming experiences with life enhancing experiences that deepen us further into the feminine mysteries through self forgiveness (Ka-Kini-el), self love (Rho-clor-el), self respect and self care.
Our life expectancy and quality of life into and beyond menopause depend wholly on us being willing to follow this path of soul guided grounded self awareness (Ony-chel). Our daughters, granddaughters and the future of our society depend on us, as the wise women, being able to learn from our past choices, emerging into our unique, empowered expression of the feminine.
It is now time to go on a menopause adventure to reclaim those parts of ourselves we have given away throughout our lives, to return us to fullness so that we are resourced to experience the power and magic of menopause. To support ourselves and others in the journey of life through the service of our wisdom and grace.
Guided Meditation with St Germain’s Violet Flame
Close your eyes and focus your mind on your breath. Gently inhale drawing in the silver/pink/indigo rays of self, and on the exhale releasing anything that is not you, or that you no longer need. Continue to gently breathe allowing your breath to spread through your being, deepening you into peace, balance and trust in your own divinity.
As you drop deeper into your own purity (Mer-q-el) you notice a silver (Argen-tel-m) winding path leading away into the distance. It is inviting you to follow it through the forest. As you travel along the silver path you feel yourself connecting deeper into your feminine soul.
As you continue to gently breathe, you feel yourself gaining a greater understanding of the cyclical nature of the feminine, feeling the silver initiating you further into activating and harmonizing your goddess self while embracing and blessing you in your journey as a woman. Along the path you might feel the presence of many other women that have been role models in your life. Acknowledge their gifts of love, presence, connection and wisdom.
As you travel the silver path further, you notice ahead of you a purple cave. Again it feels inviting so you enter and are instantly surrounded by the most beautiful purple light. As you look around, you realise you are in a cave of Amethyst (Amerayel-ra) surrounded by the most exquisite amethyst geodes. As your eyes adjust, you realise there is a purple flame in the centre of the cave that is drawing your attention.
“With this Flame comes the gift of Love, Understanding and Truth for within its Presence, Love is all that is, Fear will be Understood as Illusion and Wisdom is held in the minds innermost Eye.” The Master Saint Germain
You sit and gently breathe, feeling fully present and comfortable in your body. As you watch the flame dance before your eyes you invite Master St Germain to ignite this violet flame in your heart. Continue gently breathing for a few minutes, as the flame of Love, Understanding and Truth, enters and expands in your heart, deepening you into blissful peace.
Visualise this beautiful flame expanding through your chest. Continue to breathe as it expands up into your head, down into your abdomen and along your legs, down to your toes, along your arms and to your fingertips. Stay present with the flame for a few minutes as it fills every cell of your body with Love, Understanding and Truth.
When you are ready, begin to spread the flame out into your auric field, through your etheric, emotional and mental bodies, again using your breath stay present for a few minutes with the process as the flame cleanses and balances your energetic field into greater Love, Understanding and Truth.
You become completely immersed in the purple light of the flame bringing you further into a space of a peaceful heart and a truthful mind. Within the flame you feel your attachments to others and their situations falling away, and as they fall away you feel parts of you left in other times, spaces and places returning to you. You sit for awhile, gently breathing as the process continues, dropping deeper and deeper into self fullness, completeness and unity. Finally the process is complete. You take time to stand, thank the flame and the cave.
Leaving the cave you once again see a path beckoning you. This time as you travel along the silver path you feel a joy and a fullness in your spirit and energy, you feel immense gratitude for your silver path of wisdom. You continue gently breathing as you travel further along the silver path.
This time the path leads you to a soft blue/silver light. Again a cave beckons you. As you enter you find yourself surrounded by light silver/blue geodes of Celestite (Celestel). As you look around the cave you feel yourself being gently covered in a silver/blue cloak of light. As you allow this cloak to bless you, you feel yourself drop deeper and deeper into the centre of all you are, into your sacred space, where all that will, and has been, due to you, is transmuted to absolute Knowing.
You continue to breathe surrounded by the silver/blue cloak feeling the peace of your intrinsic knowing in every cell of your body. As you continue to gently breathe you realise that the truth, love and power of your wisdom and knowing that you have gained in this and other lifetimes is your true gift to yourself, your loved ones and humanity and you feel safe to commit to deepening into your own personal exploration of your wisdom and knowing for you.
Again you thank the cave and the silver/blue cloak and prepare to return back. Continue to gently breathe as you return to the room.
St Germain’s Violet Flame is spiritual alchemy in action. Its purpose is to transmute denser feelings, actions, deeds into a higher vibrational frequency, which helps transform our thinking and awaken our consciousness. You may use the Violet Flame in perfect harmony with any belief system, religion or practice. All that is required is an open, loving heart, your desire, intention and sincerity.
You can use the words in this guided meditation or use words from your own heart. Ask the flame to transmute the gross energy to become the higher frequency of love, abundance, grace, ease, on all dimensions, on all levels, through all time and space, past, present and future. For more information on using St Germain’s Violet Flame go to https://ascension-stgermain.com/violetflame-article.html
photo credit: Tom McNamee photopin, artwork Cassia Carnell